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Demanding money from the hospital under the guise of charity

Oksana turned to the REAct documentator with a request to provide advice and help in obtaining medical assistance. The woman explained that in the radiologist’s office, the doctor offered her to make a so-called “charitable monetary contribution” for the service received.

The client refused and said that she did not have cash. To which the doctor suggested withdrawing the money and bringing it to her because only then will she be able to give the fluoroscopy picture. Oksana refused, after which the doctor started cursing and insulting the woman. Oksana left the office and left the hospital.

The REAct documentator visited the medical facility, where the radiologist silently handed the X-ray picture to the client and closed the door. After that, the documentator visited the chief doctor, because this was not the first case on the part of this doctor. The woman systematically demands money from clients for X-ray pictures under the guise of charity. After the chief doctor’s promise to look into this issue, Oksana was given the necessary help, registered and prescribed medication.

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REAct Project In Ukraine: Registered Human Rights Violations of HIV/TB Key Populations and Response to Such Violations

Starting from 2019, the REAct system – a tool for monitoring and responding to human rights violations at the community level – is being implemented in Ukraine.

During this time, REAct professionals continue to actively help and respond to cases of violations of the rights of key communities, providing psychosocial and legal support, free of charge.

In 2021, 2021 cases of violation of the rights of representatives of key communities were recorded in Ukraine. Such cases were reported by 1,944 persons, some of whom requested help more than once.

77 non-governmental organizations (NGOs) and 103 documentators were involved in documenting and responding to cases of violations of the rights of key communities vulnerable to HIV/TB in 17 regions.

As part of the response to cases of violations of the rights of key communities, 87% of services were provided to clients directly in NGOs at the location of the documentators. 94% of cases were resolved completely or partially.

Project documentators provided the following types of services: primary legal assistance (74%), psychosocial assistance (24%), and secondary legal assistance (2%). Referral of clients mostly took place within the framework of providing psychosocial and secondary legal assistance.

Read more information about the implementation of the Project, registered appeals, guarantees, and the role of the state in the field of human rights protection in the new analytical report for 2021.

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Bullying a child at school because of her mother’s past

The documentator of the REAct project was contacted by a client of one of the partner NGOs. The woman said that her child comes home from school in tears and says that her peers bully and make fun of her, arguing that her mother is a drug addict and will soon die. Moreover, the class teacher also repeatedly insulted the girl, calling her a “drug addict bastard” and predicting that she would be just like her mother.

The client’s daughter was terrified. Because of this, the girl did not want to go to school, was psychologically depressed, and asked her mother to move somewhere where no one would know about her past. No one supported the child in this school. Instead, they even hated her, because they constantly tried to insult and humiliate her. The woman was in despair and did not know how to find a way out of this situation.

The REAct documentator from the partner organization Club “ENEY” instantly reacted to this case and immediately consulted the client. Currently, the woman is provided with psychological support from the organization’s psychologist. Also, together with the documentator and the organization’s lawyer, a complaint was submitted to the school management, but, unfortunately, there were no response results from the administration. After that, the client, accompanied by NGO specialists, filed a complaint with the education department of the district administration, where the reaction was immediate. The class teacher was deprived of the functions of class leadership, and the director of the educational institution was reprimanded. Moreover, the specialists of the Department of Education helped to transfer the girl to another school, where she now studies with pleasure and also visits a school psychologist to overcome the previous consequences of bullying.

This case is a vivid example of how children of representatives of key groups can be stigmatized even by teachers who seem to have a high moral culture. However, the reality is cruel. Therefore, liability for stigmatization and discrimination must be effective.

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Peculiarities of observing human rights and freedoms during martial law

Russia’s insidious military aggression against Ukraine forced our country to introduce a special legal regime – martial law – to protect the country and its citizens. The introduction of martial law involves the possibility of restrictions on some rights and freedoms of citizens. However, there are rights that cannot be limited even at this time. Let’s analyze it in more detail.

First, any issues of limitation of rights must have a legal basis. Thus, martial law itself was introduced by the Decree of the President of Ukraine “On the introduction of martial law in Ukraine” No. 64/2022 dated 24.02.2022, Article 3 of which stipulates that during the period of martial law, the constitutional rights and freedoms provided for in Articles 30 may be limited – 34, 38, 39, 41 – 44, 53 of the Constitution of Ukraine, namely:

  • inviolability of housing;
  • secrecy of correspondence, telephone conversations, telegraphic and other correspondence;
  • non-interference in personal and family life, except for cases provided for by the Constitution of Ukraine;
  • freedom of movement, free choice of place of residence, the right to freely leave the territory of Ukraine, with the exception of restrictions established by law;
  • the right to freedom of thought and speech, to the free expression of one’s views and beliefs;
  • the right to participate in the management of state affairs, in all-Ukrainian and local referenda, to freely elect and be elected to state and local self-government bodies;
  • the right to assemble peacefully, without weapons, and hold meetings, rallies, marches, and demonstrations;
  • the right to own, use and dispose of one’s property, the results of one’s intellectual and creative activity;
  • the right to entrepreneurial activity, which is not prohibited by law;
  • the right to work;
  • the right to strike to protect one’s economic and social interests;
  • the right to education.

Also, Article 8 of the Law of Ukraine “On the Legal Regime of Martial Law” dated May 12, 2015, No. 389-VIII introduces such restrictions on citizens, such as, for example:

  • introduction of a curfew (that is, a ban on being on the streets and in other public places during a certain period of the day without specially issued passes and certificates);
  • checking documents of persons, and, if necessary, conducting an inspection of things, vehicles, baggage and cargo, office premises, and citizens’ homes, with the exception of restrictions established by the Constitution of Ukraine;
  • prohibition of holding peaceful meetings, rallies, marches and demonstrations, and other mass events;
  • establishment of a special regime in the field of production and sale of medicinal products containing narcotic drugs, psychotropic substances, and precursors, and other potent substances, the list of which is determined by the Cabinet of Ministers of Ukraine;
  • establishment of a special entry and exit regime, restrictions on the freedom of movement of citizens, foreigners, and stateless persons, as well as the movement of vehicles;
  • establishment of a ban or restriction on the choice of place of stay or residence of persons in the territory where martial law is in force;
  • establishment of military housing obligation for the housing of military personnel, members of the rank and file of law enforcement agencies, personnel of the civil defense service, and the evacuated population;
  • evacuate the population if there is a threat to their life or health.

At the same time, any restrictions on rights and freedoms must be justified by actual circumstances and needs.

It should be especially noted that there are basic constitutional rights of citizens, which are provided for in Art. 24, 25, 27, 28, 29, 40, 47, 61, 52, 55, 56, 57, 58, 59. 60, 61. 62, 63 of the Constitution of Ukraine, which cannot be limited under any conditions, including during martial law.

In particular, citizens may not be deprived or restricted in any case:

  • the right to have constitutional rights and freedom equal to others and to be equal before the law;
  • there can be no restrictions based on race, skin color, political, religious, and other beliefs, gender, ethnic and social origin, property status, place of residence, language, or other characteristics;
  • citizens of Ukraine cannot be deprived of citizenship and the right to change citizenship;
  • inalienable rights to life cannot be violated; on respect for dignity, freedom, and personal integrity (including the absolute prohibition of torture);
  • the right to protect one’s life and health, the life and health of other people from illegal encroachments (necessary self-defense), the right of every person to appeal to the state to protect their life and health;
  • the right to send appeals or to personally address state authorities and local self-government bodies is not subject to restriction;
  • the right to protect rights and freedoms in court is not subject to limitation;
  • the right to apply for the protection of one’s rights to the Human Rights Commissioner of the Verkhovna Rada of Ukraine and, in accordance with the procedure established by law, to relevant international organizations, the right to protect one’s rights and freedoms in the event of violations and illegal encroachments by other means not prohibited by law;
  • the right to housing, marriage and equal rights and obligations in marriage and family cannot be limited;
  • the equality of children in their rights is not subject to limitation, regardless of origin, as well as whether they were born in or out of wedlock;
  • the right to compensation with the funds of the state or local self-government bodies for material and moral damage caused by illegal decisions of state authorities;
  • the right to know one’s rights and obligations;
  • the right to professional legal assistance;
  • the right not to comply with clearly criminal orders or orders;
  • the right not to be held twice liable for the same kind of legal responsibility for the same offense;
  • presumption of innocence (that is, the right of a person to be considered innocent of a crime and not be subject to criminal punishment until his guilt is proven in a legal manner and established by a court verdict);
  • the right not to prove one’s innocence in committing a crime;
  • the right that the accusation will not be based on evidence obtained illegally, as well as on assumptions and that all doubts about the proven guilt of a person will be interpreted in his favor;
  • the right to defense and refusal to testify or give explanations regarding oneself, family members, or close relatives;
  • compliance with such standards as the minimum wage and the minimum vacation period.
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Legal assistance to a military serviceman

Ruslan turned to the REActor. He was confused. From the first days of the war, the man volunteered in the Armed Forces. He had no health problems because he diligently accepted ART treatment. His wife has known about her husband’s status for a long time and regularly undergoes examinations. However, there was a crisis in their relationship.

When Ruslan returned home for a short vacation, his wife, without explaining, did not let him into the house, threatened to call the police, and publicized his status to all neighbors and colleagues. The woman began insulting Ruslan, calling him a “spidoznyi” and emphasizing that he threatened her health.

The man did not understand the reason for this behavior, because the woman regularly underwent counseling and has information to feel safe. Most of all, he was upset that while defending his close ones in the war, he himself experienced stigma and discrimination from them. The man needed legal help to somehow protect himself.

Thanks to the already-established forwarding mechanism, Ruslan contacted the Khmelnytskyi Ukrainian Helsinki Union for Human Rights lawyer, who provided him with high-quality advice. Now the man feels confident and protected, knows how to act in similar situations, and, most importantly, understands that he is not alone in this difficult time.

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Bad habit: treating anxiety with alcohol

You have probably often heard from yourself or your friends that one of the reasons for drinking alcohol is to reduce your own anxiety.

We often forget that alcohol is a pathological drug. It gives a ghostly illusion of moving a person to some imaginary world and changes his consciousness. And that’s why a person may not feel anxious when intoxicated. By the way, not only alcohol, other psychoactive substances have the same properties.

But after the intoxication ends, a person returns to the real world. And at this time, the level of her anxiety increases many times. Such “medical therapy” is harmful both physically and psychologically.

Anxiety disorders cannot be treated or prevented with any psychoactive substances. They do not treat, do not remove the cause of anxiety, do not solve the problem. Avoiding the problem, and shutting down is nothing but a solution to a difficult situation that causes concern.

These days, energy drinks, tonics, and low-alcohol drinks are trendy. Doses of alcohol, which they contain together with taurine, guarana, and most often with caffeine, theobromine, and theophylline, unbalance the nervous system: they cause sleep disturbances, excitement, restlessness, tachycardia, increased blood pressure, arrhythmia, nausea, and vomiting, short-term depression. Such consequences of using energy tonics are not a “treatment” of anxiety at all, but a direct stimulation of it. In combination with alcohol, energy drinks are dangerous, because they lead to body dehydration. Also, the consumer receives a subjective assessment of his physical capabilities, which does not correspond to reality. The same caffeine, for example, on the one hand, stimulates, and on the other hand – increases anxiety.

That is why any artificial changes in one’s emotional state will ultimately cause increased anxiety, addiction, and many other health problems.

Keep yourselves. Breathe fresh air to your full chest. Drink enough water and, if necessary, encourage yourself with small portions of coffee or chocolate. Do not forget that a good conversation with a specialist or just a friend is the best prevention and treatment of an anxiety disorder.

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Helping a military man with HIV status

Victor is a serviceman of the Armed Forces of Ukraine who hid his HIV-positive status before signing the contract and did not undergo the appropriate examination. Already being in the military unit, his well-being significantly worsened. The condition became so complicated that the man’s teeth began to fall out. Because he did not have constant access to ART, the old supplies ran out, and to get new drugs, he had to disclose his status in the department and explain why he needed to go to a specialized institution. Because of the fear of revealing his position, he did not say anything, and therefore could not leave the part on his own, and was left without the necessary treatment.

When Victor became completely sick, he still told everything and was brought to a medical institution in a few days accompanied by the head of the medical and sanitary department. According to the client, after opening the status, they started treating him very negatively, because of which he lost his psychological balance and started drinking alcohol. The attendant at the medical institution did not want to leave the doctor’s office when the appointment was taking place, saying that he knew everything and that he considered such a person dangerous for those around him, especially for the military.

On the same day, the client made an appointment for the next day to receive the medication, but he was not brought on the required day. He asked the REAct documentator for help in solving this situation. They did not want to take Victor to an outpatient clinic for the treatment of HIV-positive patients and did not provide the necessary therapy, which later resulted in constant obsessive thoughts about suicide.

With the support of the Project Coordinator, the documentator turned to the technical leadership of the Armed Forces of Ukraine from the medical unit, from there to the leadership of the unit where the client was, and the very next day he arrived at the medical facility and received medicine. Currently, the client is undergoing a military medical examination because he cannot continue serving in the army due to his health. In addition, a psychologist works remotely with the husband and solves the most critical issues.

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How to help and calm yourself during war?

  • Painting.

If you have access to various anti-stress coloring pages, you can use them. If there are none, even drawing illegible doodles on a sheet of paper will help.

You can offer children (and yourself too!) the to draw their moods, condition, and fears. The child relieves stress and recovers during such drawing and verbal description of the picture. Therefore, encourage such activities.

The method of depicting one’s fears and emotions with speaking is quite effective in helping children and adults.

  • Listen to your favorite music wherever possible. Sing.

And if you can involve other people in this activity, you will get comfort and a feeling of cohesion and unity.

  • Take a break from consuming information.

Focus on a few sources that provide only official, verified information. Try not to read the news before bed.

  • Read fiction, poetry.

Many studies conducted in Western countries have proven that poetry has a highly positive effect on our psyche.

  • The “Breath of Life” method.

When you have an urgent need to calm down or relieve a panic attack, take a full breath in – hold your breath for three counts – a full breath out – hold your breath for three counts – repeat the exercise.

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Challenges of war: the work of the REAct system in Ukraine

Even under the conditions of war and active hostilities in some regions of Ukraine, REAct documentators continue to record cases of violations of the rights of key communities, interact with clients and provide the necessary assistance.

We present to you a new booklet, produced based on the results of the REAct system in the conditions of the war in Ukraine.

  • Changes to the work of REAct documentators during the war
  • Changes in the needs of clients contacting REAct
  • Violation of the rights of key groups during the war
  • Barriers to response
  • Successes and new opportunities
  • Detailed statistics and case descriptions

Read about all this in the booklet “Challenges of war: the work of the REAct system in Ukraine”.

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Disclosure of the patient’s HIV status

The REAct documentator was contacted by Natalia. The woman has had a positive HIV status for quite a long time. She is receiving the necessary treatment and has an undetectable viral load.

The client chose the family doctor for the conclusion of the declaration using the help of the “VONA” organization. When the war started, the doctor took in a new nurse, because the previous one had to go abroad. Unfortunately, as Natalia found out after, the new nurse was intolerant of representatives of vulnerable groups. Moreover, she was too aggressive in this matter.

As it turned out later, Natalia, after all, also lived with her in the same house. Therefore, when the woman began to see letters with threats and insults on her door about her diagnosis, she rightly blamed the new nurse who had access to such information. Later, the nurse personally admitted that she did not want to cooperate with HIV-infected people.

The REActor provided Natalia with contacts of lawyers from free primary legal aid who are familiar with the specifics of working with representatives of vulnerable groups. After that, the documentator helped the client in drawing up an application in the name of the head of the Primary Health Care Center. Later, the nurse was fired for being unfit for her position.

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Learning how to positively motivate ourselves

A person is so arranged that he cannot work in the same mode all the time: from time to time there is a decline in strength, and he gives up and does not want to do anything. At this moment, it is essential to cheer yourself up and motivate yourself in order to return to the formation.

Let’s talk about how to do it correctly and effectively.

1. Remember your strong qualities and sides.

Self-doubt and one’s abilities are frequent causes of loss of strength and reluctance to do something.

2. Remind yourself of your achievements and advantages.

Compliment yourself on the skills you have developed well and take action.

3. Do what you like (in the ecological sense).

When motivation is at zero, it’s difficult to just get up and start doing labor-intensive work, so to start cognitive processes, start with something simple: do the work that brings you pleasure.

These actions will improve your mood and help restore inspiration, as a result, you will have more energy to complete work tasks.

4. Celebrate very small victories.

This will help build positive skills. It is not necessary to buy a cake every time. It is enough to simply note that something good has happened.

5. Focus on solving the problem.

It is important to focus not on the problem itself, but rather on its solution. Consider all possible options.

6. Take care of your health.

Feeling bad is a great distraction from work and lowers productivity.

7. Engage in dancing, sports, and be outdoors more often.

8. Do what you love and with what you can earn money.

Success in any endeavor is based on a combination of passion and experience. But be careful. Not everything we like can bring real income, which sooner or later will lead to burnout.

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Discrimination by medical professionals

Zhanna turned to the REAct documentator. The woman uses street drugs and sometimes alcohol. Recently, she had an unpleasant situation during an appointment with a gynecologist.

Zhanna’s health problems began before the war. In 2021, she was successfully treated by her doctor, but with the start of hostilities near Kyiv, the doctor was forced to evacuate to another city. According to the woman, she received a referral to another gynecologist, with whom she went for an appointment.

During the examination, as soon as the doctor saw traces of the injections, she immediately began to insult the patient in the presence of the nurse, calling her a “drug addict”, assuming that the patient is HIV-positive and already has AIDS. After that, the gynecologist kicked the patient out of the office and ordered her not to come again, because she does not treat “patients with AIDS”.

After the intervention of the REActor of the NGO “VONA”, a complaint was written to the management regarding the inadmissibility of such behavior of the doctor, disclosure of medical secrets, humiliating treatment of patients, insults, and non-provision of medical assistance. The complaint was considered, and the doctor was brought to disciplinary responsibility in the form of a reprimand with an obligation to undergo training to overcome stigma and discrimination.

Currently, Zhanna is being treated by a friendly gynecologist at the same medical facility.

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Learning not to be a victim – a checklist from a psychologist

1. Understand: every second, minute we make one or another choice.

The position of the victim is also a choice made on the basis of certain beliefs. We cannot influence certain events, but we can choose how to react to them.

2. Replace the habit of constantly looking for the culprits in your troubles with the habit of looking for options for solving problems and getting out of the crisis.

For example, instead of asking “Why exactly did this happen to me?”, “Why is this happening to me?” accept the situation and start looking for an answer to the question “What now?”. Identify all possible solutions to the problem. This is much more productive than finding the culprits. Although it is up to you to decide whether to stand still or take a step forward. The choice is yours.

“Accept the situation” does not mean completely surrendering to the circumstances, but accepting the fact that you cannot influence some global things, but you can choose how to react to them. For example, instead of sitting under fire in a dilapidated house and wondering whether the rocket will hit the house or not, periodically switching to self-defeating questions like “Why me, for what?”, you can take care of your own safety and temporarily move to a safe place, with a clear the realization that housing can always be rebuilt.

3. If you have a difficult choice in front of you and you don’t know what to stop it at, choose what is the most profitable for you at the moment.

You can even write down the pros and cons of each option you have identified and make your choice based on this analysis.

4. Constant shifting of responsibility to others reinforces you in the position of a victim. Each of us is the forge of our own happiness. Remember this.

5. Self-love, understanding your desires and needs, and building your own behavior on the basis of this understanding will make you invulnerable and independent of other people’s judgments, opinions, suggestions.

6. Search for new meanings. Learn to perceive any experience (even very bitter) as an opportunity for your own development and growth.

Only you can choose: to take the internal position of the winner or the loser!

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Online meeting of representatives of the UHHRU and regional coordinators of the REAct project

Today, September 20, 2022, an online meeting of representatives of the UHHRU and regional coordinators of the REAct project was held.

The purpose of the meeting was to exchange information on the work of projects on documenting and responding to cases of violations of the rights of key communities in wartime conditions.

As part of the meeting, Nadiya Semchuk, senior specialist of the REAct project, talked about the location of REAct documentators, changes in their work, and the needs of clients requesting help. REAct’s basic statistics on recorded cases since the beginning of the war and how to respond to them were also presented.

Nadiya Semchuk, senior specialist of the REAct project

Natalya Kozarenko, coordinator of the network of public receptions of the UHHRU, shared information about the work of 12 receptions of the UHHRU in the regions and provided data on the number of appeals to the UHHRU in 2021. In particular, 2,851 appeals were registered.

Natalya Kozarenko, coordinator of the network of public receptions of the UHHRU

Within the framework of the meeting, the experience of interaction between REAct documentators and lawyers of the UHHRU was also discussed. Coordinators from Zhytomyr, Dnipro, and Mykolaiv shared the experience of their regions regarding the redirection of clients from REAct to UHHRU.

“I call on both the documentators and the REAct coordinators to be active in the framework of interaction with the UHHRU. In our region, we were able to set up a forwarding system that works well”, – Olena Kovalenko, regional coordinator of REAct in Zhytomyr.

Based on the results of the meeting, directions for the following actions were worked out to strengthen the interaction between REAct and the UHHRU, improve the client forwarding system, and increase the legal capacity of REAct documentators.

Find the full presentation at the link.

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Humiliation and discrimination of the OST patient

In connection with the beginning of a full-scale war, Halyna, an OST patient, with two young children was forced to move to Ivano-Frankivsk and live with her mother-in-law. From the beginning, the woman was against them moving in with her, so whenever possible, she humiliated Halyna and her children in every possible way.

One day, her friend came to the mother-in-law’s house, and physical violence was added to the psychological one. Halyna and her children hurriedly left the house and turned to the police department, where she wrote a statement about violence against her and her children.

Police officers told her that they could temporarily stay at a shelter for people affected by domestic violence. The police provided the address and called there in advance to warn of the client’s arrival.

When Halyna and her children came to settle in the shelter, the workers began to ask about her health, and, after learning that she was an OST patient, they placed her and her children in a shelter for a night’s stay, where most homeless people are left. The children were so frightened that they cried all the time, so the woman was forced to leave the proposed overnight stay as soon as possible.

In desperation, Galina wrote an announcement on social networks and asked for help. The owner of the hotel responded to her request, where she was placed with people who were forced to leave their homes due to the war.

Halyna turned to the REAct documentator to get advice on the legality of the shelter workers’ actions and psychological help for her and the children. The REActor contacted the social service in the city, informing them about this case. The documentator asked to explain the reasons for settling Halyna and her children in a shelter for the homeless, and not in a shelter for victims of violence, which is very close, and the conditions that were more comfortable for the woman and her children. She received a formal answer that the head of the institution was on vacation, and social service workers could not communicate with Halyna, as she had left the shelter early.

Currently, the woman continues to stay in the hotel, she and her children are provided with the necessary psychological assistance and food kits from the “Zahid Shans” Foundation and the “D.O.M.48/24” NGO.

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Learning to survive a traumatic experience

Focusing on a certain traumatic event forces you to live in the past and requires a lot of energy to constantly scroll through terrible memories in your head.

The attention of such a person is similar to a lantern that shines only at one point.

Stephen Hayes in the book “The Liberated Mind” offers the following algorithm for getting rid of unpleasant memories:

1. Accept your traumatic experience.

Our memories can be distorted and incomplete. What we call memories are repeatedly edited and modified under the influence of various factors.

In order to accept your experience, you can imagine it as a metaphorical image. For example:

  • embrace your experience as you would a crying baby;
  • sit next to your own memories, as you would sit with a seriously ill person;
  • look at your experience as a picture.

2. Give up fighting your experience.

Remember and imagine your experience and try to answer the following questions:

  • Do I have a bodily sensation associated with this experience, can I say yes to it and allow myself to simply be what I feel?
  • Is there an opinion related to this event?
  • Can I just accept it and not fight it?
  • Have you watched someone struggle with something similar, and if so, are you able to look at the other person’s experience with compassion?
  • What do you need to do to stop fighting your feelings?
  • Are you ready to say “no” to feelings and give them up?
  • Is there something about your negative experience that you are holding on to?
  • Your pain about past experiences may speak to your values and vulnerabilities. What might these values, needs, and vulnerabilities be?

3. Expand your view of the situation that happened.

Experiencing something traumatic forces us to focus only on complex feelings of pain, fear, and regret.

If we add breadth to our experience, and look at the situation from a different angle, perhaps we will discover something new for ourselves or in ourselves.

Ask yourself the following questions:

  • If you looked at your life from the perspective of a wiser future, could this experience teach you something?
  • If you were to write a book in which the hero goes through a traumatic experience, would that experience make him stronger, more resilient, and wiser?
  • How would you feel if someone else you loved were going through a similar experience? How would you feel about him? What would you advise him to do?
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Organization of the military-medical commission

Ivan received a summons from the territorial center of recruitment and social support. The man was not conscripted, as he had HIV and a number of related diseases.

During a conversation at the Center, Ivan explained that although he is not against serving in the ranks of the Armed Forces, he is afraid that he will not be able to take care of his health to the necessary extent on the front line and, because of this, perform his military duties with dignity. His medical documents confirmed all this. However, the man was told that the war was going on and he had to defend the state.

The client turned to the REAct documentator in the Chernihiv region, who provided him with advice and explained that there is a list of diseases approved by the order of the Ministry of Defense, according to which there is a procedure for determining the fitness of citizens to carry out military service in peace- and wartime.

Also, the project documenter prepared a statement requesting that the client be referred to the military medical commission to determine the degree of his suitability for military service. The written statement contained a warning about criminal liability for disclosing information about HIV status.

In addition, the lawyers of the public organization “MART” provided the client with assistance and support in collecting documents and certificates necessary for the commission.

After the examination, Ivan was declared unfit for military service in wartime. He was issued an army card, where information about exclusion from registration was entered. Therefore, under any circumstances, he should not be called up for military service; in the future, he will be able to cross the border if he wants.

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Myths about domestic violence

Myth 1: There is no sexual abuse in marriage.

Reality: Sexual assault is a crime that has no place in a relationship between people, whether they are married or not.

Sexual contact should take place with both partners’ consent and be acceptable and desirable for both. If sexual contact is forced, in an unwanted form, the partner intimidates, humiliates, or offends, it is violence.

Myth 2: Violence is only about beatings.

Reality: In addition to physical violence, psychological, economic, and sexual violence are no less dangerous.

In particular, economic violence often hides behind the mask of care: the partner insists that there is no need to work or study, but then there is total control, reporting of the funds used, and humiliation. Lack of economic independence is one of the main reasons for silence and acceptance of physical violence.

Myth 3: Beating means loving. Everyone lives like this.

Reality: one person’s violence against another is not the norm, but illegal activity for which there is no justification. Looking for an explanation for the violence, many victims do not seek help for years, which worsens the situation and can have severe psychological consequences.

Living in constant fear and stress leads to loss of confidence, formation of low self-esteem, and various ailments.

Myth 4: Domestic violence only exists in “dysfunctional” families.

Reality: Domestic violence knows no social boundaries. It occurs in all social groups, regardless of the level of education and income.

Myth 5: It is necessary to endure for the sake of children.

Reality: children who grow up in a complete family and see violence suffer much more than those who grow up with one loving parent in a harmonious relationship and family peace.

Children who witness violence between parents or close relatives, even if they physically avoid it, suffer mentally. This negatively affects their emotional state, relationships with peers, and studies.