{"id":9934,"date":"2022-09-16T13:44:57","date_gmt":"2022-09-16T10:44:57","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/react-aph.org\/learning-to-survive-a-traumatic-experience\/"},"modified":"2022-09-16T13:45:45","modified_gmt":"2022-09-16T10:45:45","slug":"learning-to-survive-a-traumatic-experience","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/react-aph.org\/en\/learning-to-survive-a-traumatic-experience\/","title":{"rendered":"Learning to survive a traumatic experience"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Focusing on a certain traumatic event forces you to live in the past and requires a lot of energy to constantly scroll through terrible memories in your head.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The attention of such a person is similar to a lantern that shines only at one point.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em><strong>Stephen Hayes in the book &#8220;The Liberated Mind&#8221;<\/strong> <\/em>offers the following algorithm for getting rid of unpleasant memories:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>1. Accept your traumatic experience.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Our memories can be distorted and incomplete. What we call memories are repeatedly edited and modified under the influence of various factors.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In order to accept your experience, you can imagine it as a metaphorical image. For example:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul><li>embrace your experience as you would a crying baby;<\/li><li>sit next to your own memories, as you would sit with a seriously ill person;<\/li><li>look at your experience as a picture.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>2. Give up fighting your experience.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Remember and imagine your experience and try to answer the following questions:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul><li>Do I have a bodily sensation associated with this experience, can I say yes to it and allow myself to simply be what I feel?<\/li><li>Is there an opinion related to this event?<\/li><li>Can I just accept it and not fight it?<\/li><li>Have you watched someone struggle with something similar, and if so, are you able to look at the other person&#8217;s experience with compassion?<\/li><li>What do you need to do to stop fighting your feelings?<\/li><li>Are you ready to say &#8220;no&#8221; to feelings and give them up?<\/li><li>Is there something about your negative experience that you are holding on to?<\/li><li>Your pain about past experiences may speak to your values and vulnerabilities. What might these values, needs, and vulnerabilities be?<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>3. Expand your view of the situation that happened.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Experiencing something traumatic forces us to focus only on complex feelings of pain, fear, and regret.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If we add breadth to our experience, and look at the situation from a different angle, perhaps we will discover something new for ourselves or in ourselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ask yourself the following questions:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul><li>If you looked at your life from the perspective of a wiser future, could this experience teach you something?<\/li><li>If you were to write a book in which the hero goes through a traumatic experience, would that experience make him stronger, more resilient, and wiser?<\/li><li>How would you feel if someone else you loved were going through a similar experience? How would you feel about him? 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